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Gen-der reminders

Heyhey! It's a Thursday and I'm back! Just came back from a night of guard duty. It is supposed to be our Battery Outing day today. The rest have booked out last night while my detachment mates and I had to serve a night of guard duty and only book out this morning. But it's ok!

Yesterday, I got to do prowling for the first time with my buddy Xiaoyu. For those of you girls who don't know what prowling means, it means to walk around the whole camp and go through every designated checkpoint. Our shift was from 10pm to 2am. As we were patrolling, we kept talking to keep our mood alive. Haha. And we were talking about gender issues, boy-girl relationships and stuff. Being the attached one out of the duo, Xiaoyu of course had more things to say.

So what were we talking about? First of all, we talked about how a lot of girls despise army guys. Or should I say, lots of them are very opiniated towards army guys like us. What comes to mind when they speak of meeting army guys? DESPOs, FlIRTATIOUS, BUAYA, HORNY BASTARDS, and the list goes on. No doubt, most army guys feel rather isolated in a world full of guys. That's why we tend to talk about girls all the time. And when some chio bu walks by, every normal army guy will just glance her way, hoping to "sweep" her off. Albeit the fact that we are very into girls, that does not make us perverts. So please, don't stereotype. As a matter of fact, I know that a lot of us when faced with a strange girl, I mean a female stranger, will feel rather uneasy and shy. So, there are two sides to the coin. We are tamed "lions" after all.

Having said that, I heard a lot of cases of friends whom girlfriends dumped them just because they have to serve NS. And because serving NS it means they have no time to accompany their girlfriends, as their girlfriends might say. I feel so sorry for my male counterparts and I despise those females for being impatient and cold-blooded. They merely reflect on the harsh practicality of social life. And people used to talk about how guys always cheat on their girlfriends. Now, what say you?!

Anyway, for your info, my friend Xiaoyu was probably the fittest and strongest guy among the men in our Battery. He was saying how painful can be when a girl hits you. He said no matter how hard his buddies in camp tried to hit him, it was nothing compared to the tight slap on the arm by his girlfriend, or the pinch that could make your whole body jump and shiver in fear(and probably lose a few hair after that). Having experienced these "violent" acts by my female friends before, I found it somewhat true and fascinating. Have we guys become "softies" when we are faced with girls? Damn, now I feel so vulnerable. Now back off ladies. Hahaha.

Next, I think the issue with most guys is that we think that girls are temperamental creatures. Sometimes they get all so flared up, we just don't understand what's happening or what's causing their sudden irritation. Then we search ourselves for answers and end up just as clueless. Besides their regular PMS which they have signed on(lol), lots of girls just get into frequent mood swings. Now I can understand why my bunk mate said he rather be single as he wanted a carefree and no-burden life. But I don't think I am following his footsteps, since I love challenges. Wahahaha.

Here's another personal issue. For me, one of my "Fear Factor" is to see a girl crying in front of me. I think most guys have the same problem as well. The thing is, when a girl cries, sometimes you just feel like you were starring in the LOST series. You just feel all so vulnerable and you get tongue-tied, not knowing what to say or what to do to comfort her or to stop her crying.

Here's a scenario:
Back recently, my younger sis and I were quarrelling. She was about to return home when my mum called her to ask her to help buy dinner for us from Jurong Point. She complained how tired she was, how heavy was her bag and agreed reluctantly. I was at home at that time. After a while, she called home and complained she couldn't wait for a bus as there were so many people and she was feeling worn out. So she demanded me to go down and fetch her. Guys, you should understand that it takes time to change, then walk down my flat, then start the car engine, then wait for green lights.. before you can reach your destination. I think I was prompt enough already. I just needed some time to reach there. But guess what, once she got in the car, she was screaming at me saying how beat she was and still had to buy dinner for us blah blah blah. I screamed back at her saying I was already doing her a favour and yet she complained. So when she reached home, I told my mum about it and my mum reprimanded her saying she was unreasonable. After that, she came into my room and stared at me while pointing vehemently at me. The anger in her eyes gradually dispersed into sorrow as her tears just fell instantly. Then she cried, saying she was already very tired but I still screamed back at her. Though I was initially angry as well, I was totally stuck for words while watching her cry in front of me. It was a long time since I had seen her cry just before me and I just felt speechless for a moment. I just kept saying repeatedly, "Don't cry lah, cry for what?" It was really through this incident that I found out how vulnerable my sis can be, and how I, as her elder brother should give in no matter what.

Wow.. I can't believe I have so much to talk about on this gender issue thing. Haha, it's a pity I'm not studying psychology eh? Lol. Differences between men and women still remain a mystery till date. If not, why are there so many books on this topic? So if men are from Mars and women are from Venus, who's from Earth exactly?!